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Friday, February 11, 2011

A letter from a Broken Hearted Mom!!!

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I said it before and I will say it again!!! You never know what I'm going to blog about???

Here's a new one!!!

P.S Try to be nice!!!

:P

Hello Charles,

I'm writing about something I've never seen on your blog before. I don't want to offend anyone but I'm sure some of your readers might take what I have to say to heart. This isn't about everyone else just about myself.

What do you do when your daughter goes out for an evening comes home the next day as a lesbian? I'm against same sex relationships I feel it's wrong,

God made Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve. My daughter is a beautiful young lady and has a lot going for herself, and I love her with all my heart.

She hasn't had very much luck with the men she has had in her life and I've been there for her.

I feel there's no excuse for her to turn to another woman. There are many good men in this world who would love her for who she is. As a mother I think to myself where did I go wrong?

My husband and I were divorced when my children were two and four years old. As a single parent I did the best I could to love and protect my children while they were growing up. I have always been there for both my children, but I just can't except what my daughter is involved in it's just wrong.

I truly believe this is a sickness and people in this kind of relationship should seek professional help. This other person has ruined a mother and daughters relationship, my daughters reputation is also at steak.

And what will this do to my grandchildren? I'm feeling so many things I'm sick and heart broken over all this.

And again I apologize if I have offended anyone. Hoping some of your readers can offer a little advice.

I want to try and turn this around not just for my daughter but for my two beautiful innocent grandchildren. What's a mother to do?

From a broken hearted mom.

38 comments:

Anonymous said...: Charles,

This has to be fake, no intelligent person uses "God made Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve." un-ironically.

Why are your posting fake letters?

Oh and RE the title photo: I'd hit that like the fist of a mighty god!; 7:30 PM, February 11, 2011
Anonymous said...: she should just be there for her daughter...she can't live her life for her and never know it may just be a passing thing.; 7:48 PM, February 11, 2011
mikel said...: The reality is a child will know whether a parent 'accepts' them or not. If a parent makes a child feel like they are an abhorration, then quite simply-don't expect many visits.

The best advice is to join a support group. Join one online if too embarrassed. There is no point in name calling and turning it into a social commentary, because this is between a mother and her child. As a parent, I'm sure the writer has had a habit of doing what is best for the child-no matter what the personal beliefs. Virtually every 'defect' in a child has had a parent wondering 'where they went wrong' (I certainly don't share the notion that its a defect btw).; 9:10 PM, February 11, 2011
Scott said...: Pray for her, that's the BEST thing you could ever do for her.

Remember, she doesn't need religion, nobody does. She needs a true and honest experience and touch of Jesus. There are also books written by people who were gay, and then found God and realized where their confusion crept in, and prayed and God healed them of homosexual desires. It's not a sickness really, but a confusion usually brought on by hurts from the past. Only God can heal her hurts, and her hearts desires. That goes for all of us.
Keep praying!; 9:22 PM, February 11, 2011
Billy. said...: This is ridiculous. No body "chooses" to be homosexual. It is within that person all the time through their entire life and maybe it just takes a long time for them to realize who they really are. Parents should love their children no matter what sexual orientation they are. Religion and politics have no place between a parent and their child. Instead this woman should be proud that her daughter was brave enough to realize who she was. And as a parent this woman should embrace this and love her daughter no matter what. The parent should start practicing tolerance. And the fact that the people posting comments seem to think that there is a "fault" involved, is absolute bullshit. A person is a person, gay or straight.; 10:12 PM, February 11, 2011
Anonymous said...: cause of the continued intolerance of parents when their child reveals they're gay. JUST LOVE YOUR KID!; 11:34 PM, February 11, 2011
Anonymous said...: I can't believe you all fell for a broken hearted troll.; 11:45 PM, February 11, 2011
mikel said...: Just to point out, both extremes are wrong. Sexuality is hugely complex and changes throughout ones life. There is little evidence of a 'gay gene', meaning that its not NECESSARILY something that sticks with a person.
At the same time, there is no evidence it is a 'confusion brought on by hurts from the past'. As far as we know the 'confusion' typically arises from problems interacting with society, NOT from ones own sexuality. It's usually quite simple to know which sex you are attracted to. But sometimes a person can be attracted to a single individual of the same sex, not by the gender itself.
Depending on the age, a person is going to be looking for support in exploring their own sexuality, the parent simply has to decide whether they are going to add to the problem, or help.; 11:49 PM, February 11, 2011
Charles LeBlanc said...: Sorry to bust your bubble but sadly this is a true story...

:(; 12:00 AM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: Alright if it's true here's this lady's advice...

Take no more than one year to act like a child and whine and moan about your daughter's homosexuality.

Then get over it.

You're an adult for Christ's sake, act like one.

Either you accept and unconditionally love your daughter or you don't.; 2:20 AM, February 12, 2011
Mord said...: Anyone who thinks sexual preference is a mental illness is the one that needs the help. I suppose that this woman never eats shellfish either? I'm pretty sure that it says that in the bible too.

I think Funny or Die can sum up my feelings rather nicely.

http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/c0cf508ff8/prop-8-the-musical-starring-jack-black-john-c-reilly-and-many-more-from-fod-team-jack-black-craig-robinson-john-c-reilly-and-rashida-jones; 2:43 AM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: Ask her to contact PFLAG Canada, at: 1-888-530-6777... I am not going to get in to the whole what should this mother do.

As a gay man, I can tell you first hand its not a choice. God does not make you gay or straight or bi, or trans. It's not a choice. Do you pick your eye colour? No. Do I get to pick my Sexual orientation? No.; 6:27 AM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: Oh but it is a mental sickness.; 9:56 AM, February 12, 2011
Eric said...: How do we know Jesus wasn't gay? He spent all that time with a prostitute and never got any. Plus, being surrounded by 12 men all the time as well....
the long hair....
He says to Satan at least 3 times in the bible "Get thee Behind me"

Many more jokes I can make about this. But seriously, it's just who some people are. The sooner you accept her for who she is, the sooner you can have a better relationship with her. As long as she's happy that's all that should matter.; 11:02 AM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: I just wanted to thank you Charles for putting this on your blog and also want to thank all the good people for their advice. I'm sure I'm not the only mother going through this and maybe with all the advice from your readers will help others. I know this has helped my way of thinking a little bit. I truly hope this is just a passing thing with my daughter and nothing else. As far as loving my daughter that will never change. Thank you readers.; 11:25 AM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: @ Anon 11:25...

I think you really need to talk to someone ... Your DAUGHTER is FINE. I don't see why you're so upset. She's gay. Get over it.; 3:55 PM, February 12, 2011
mikel said...: I should point out that although I don't believe in any biblical condemnation of homosexuality, a parents feelings shouldn't be discounted, we are all products of the environment.
Being gay can bring a person all kinds of hardships, both social and political. So being 'upset' that a child is gay shouldn't be written off as just a problem for the parent.
There are much worse things in the world, imagine a child coming home and saying "I want to be nothing but a tap dancer". You could imagine a parents response.

Here's an interesting article about 'what to do' in this situation with links to support groups:

http://www.narth.com/docs/tips.html; 8:57 PM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: "a parents feelings shouldn't be discounted"

Sure it can, when the parent is acting like a child.; 10:19 PM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: what fake ?
straight sex man and woman

or man and man or woman and woman

keep the homosexual sex alive and you will kill human race .. no more reproductions ...
maybe that is what the end of the world is suppose to be ????; 11:03 PM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: This is ridiculous. No body "chooses" to be homosexual. I

b/s homosexuality is a choose; 11:05 PM, February 12, 2011
Anonymous said...: Sounds like they chose da wrong name, hard to be gay when your homosexual. And, not any hope as long as your lobby group blocks scientific study of the problem, by trying to convince everybody how great it is. And there is no such thing, here as equality.; 6:46 AM, February 13, 2011
Anonymous said...: It's a shame you think you can't love your daughtor based on what words a bible translator chose for the origional Greek words.

You would be surprised what the Bible actually says about homosexuality.

http://wp.me/pUC82-2S; 12:45 PM, February 13, 2011
Anonymous said...: Another parent who puts religion ahead of their children.

If there is a God, they will judge the parent, not the child.; 3:10 PM, February 13, 2011
Andre said...: Homosexuality, like all other human behaviors are functions of many complex matrices, the interrelation between bio chemical and environmental influence which dictates how a person is going to behave having said that I would argue that Homosexuality is just a normal as any other behavior where preference is involved.

To even suggest that this behavior is pathological is ridiculous, I guess if 90 % of the population likes Fords, and 10 % of the population likes dodges, then the 10% who like dodges must be mentally ill.

To the mother who is have trouble accepting your Daughters decision, may be you should be the one seeking assistance to help you cope with the reality, the problem is not with your daughter but with you, Unfortunately is that simplistic fundamentalist thought that makes it difficult for people to have faith. The days of witch burning are over.

Life is short we are all here on the face of the earth for a very short time, so let people life their life, rather than make judgment on them.

I am sure if I examine the scriptures I could find a passage to support, "intolerance of others is one of the evils that one should keep away". You can only love that neighbors if you can be tolerant of their differences.; 5:39 PM, February 13, 2011
Anonymous said...: Mom,

You have one job in life: love your children.

All other considerations are secondary. Grow up.

The end.; 7:08 PM, February 13, 2011
Thought Police are alive and well said...: Have to love your kid no matter what choices they make but you don't have to pretend you're okay with it if you're not. Just because society has this romantic notion about gayness doesn't mean it should be embraced. Do whatever you want and live and let live. The problem today is some people to even THINK it's not okay like this poor woman. I don't agree with homosexuality but if two guys or ladies want to get it on with each other, go ahead. Just don't be upset if you ask me if I agree with it and I tell you no.; 7:59 PM, February 13, 2011
Anonymous said...: I don't think your daughter went out one night and came back gay. Either she is or she isin't and big fat hairy deal...who cares. Why does it bother you sos much mom - don't give me this religion BS. If God made everyone - which I believe he did- then he made your daughter and he made her to either be the way she is or He made her to have a brian and make choices - whichever you believe - but really - she went out and came back gay - that is so gay .........; 9:38 AM, February 14, 2011
Anonymous said...: homosexuality is a choice .. the person choose who they want to have sex with and their choice is the same sex partner ....
if homosexuality is not a choice then all people committing crimes is not a choice and should not be in jail; 9:28 PM, February 14, 2011
Anonymous said...: if any of my kids would decide to go "gay" i would tell them it your choice but i do nt have to live with it ...i will help you if you need help , i still love you but the other half of the same sex love is not to be around me ..... and i will not reconised anything about it ..
that is my choice just like you make your same sex choice; 10:07 PM, February 14, 2011
Anonymous said...: Of course people choose who they have sex with and date, but they have little control over who they find attractive.

Heterosexual people are attracted to the opposite sex but I would certainly not have sex with at least 60% of the women out there if I was offered the chance.

You're an idiot.; 9:58 AM, February 15, 2011
Anonymous said...: "if any of my kids would decide to go "gay" i would tell them it your choice but i do nt have to live with it ...i will help you if you need help , i still love you but the other half of the same sex love is not to be around me ..... and i will not reconised anything about it ..
that is my choice just like you make your same sex choice"

Well then don't be surprised if you child decides to rarely see you once they are financially independent. It certainly is your choice to act like a jerk but they will choose the person they love over the parent who will constantly remind them that the parent thinks they are sub-human and not good enough.; 10:07 AM, February 15, 2011
Anonymous said...: Well then don't be surprised if you child decides to rarely see you once they are financially independent. It certainly is your choice to act like a jerk but they will choose the person they love over the parent who will constantly remind them that the parent thinks they are sub-human and not good enough.

the only person acting like a jerk would be the one encouraging a kid to be a homo .(gay)

it is our duty as parents to stop the nonsense of gays rights .....; 6:34 PM, February 15, 2011
Anonymous said...: Of course people choose who they have sex with and date, but they have little control over who they find attractive.
finding attractive and making love are 2 very different things; 6:36 PM, February 15, 2011
Alisha said...: I'm rather disturbed.

Your a mother. Whether your child is straight, or a lesbian, it shouldn't matter. Love them anyways. SUPPORT THEM!

Homosexuals have enough problems that society dump on them, problems caused by the same hate you display of the lifestyle. they don't need the people they love hurting them too.

Your daughter is showing a great amount of courage.

Homosexuality is not a choice. As much as you feel an aversion to having sex with a woman, she feels that way about having sex with a man.

Your grandchildren will be fine. Don't put the ideas in their head about it being wrong. My aunt is a lesbian, and her daughter is a grown woman now, and completly fine!; 6:49 PM, February 15, 2011
Anonymous said...: Homosexuality is not a choice. As much as you feel an aversion to having sex with a woman, she feels that way about having sex with a man.

HOMOSEXUALITY is a CHOICE THEYCHOOSE WHO THEY SLEPT WITH; 9:04 AM, February 18, 2011
Anonymous said...: Blogger Alisha said...

I'm rather disturbed.
you sound like it anybody encouraging homosexuality must be disturbed; 9:26 AM, February 18, 2011
Anonymous said...: "HOMOSEXUALITY is a CHOICE THEYCHOOSE WHO THEY SLEPT WITH"

You know that's not what people mean when they say homosexuality is a choice and you know it.

A person could never touch another person sexually in their life, completely celibate, but if they are attracted to only members of the same gender they are homosexual.

Are you saying that homosexuality requires the participation in sexual acts?
Are you saying that anyone who isn't sexually active has no sexual orientation?

Please try to be less intellectually dishonest.; 4:57 PM, February 18, 2011
Anonymous said...: homosexuality is the choice to have sex with people of the same sex ..
it is their wether or not they will do it no one is twisting their arms to do it ..
so BE TRUTHFULL HOMOSEXUALITY IS A CHOICE ...NOT A SICKNESS; 5:47 PM, February 18, 2011

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